7 Early Warning Signs of An Addictive Relationship

An addictive relationship is like drug or alcohol addiction. When you are in it, it is tough to see your way out. Here are the signs of a dysfunctional relationship:

abuse 0An addictive relationship is not a pleasent thing to deal with, though millions of people are in bad relationships that are no good for them. Unhealthy relationships lead to abuse, drug use, depression, and to people's lives being in a very negative place. Addictive relationships can be hard to define, and therefore it can be hard to tell if you are in one. However, a bad relationship is something to take seriously, and if you can figure out that you are in one, you are one step closer to getting out of it so that you can get into a good relationship.

An addictive relationship tends to isolate either or both partners from the outdide world. It is identical to drug or alcohol dependence. It is something that keeps them apart from the things they really love and tasks they should be accomplishing. An addictive relationship is truly a dysfunctional relationship because it is defined by an increasing craving to be with a person, and by withdrawal symptoms that go along with being away from them. It also has the some of the same signs as other addictions, such as low self-esteem, passivity, magical thinking, lack of initiative, and helplessness.

Here are 7 indicators of an addictive relationship. If you find that your relationship has these things or any number of them, chances are good that you are in a bad relationship, and should consider getting out of it.

1. If it is love at first site, an animal attraction, or infatuation, warning bells should also be going off. This might include a person that is too far away, married, not interested, or emotionally unavailable. If these things are true about your partner, yet you feel like you are drawn to them, it could be an addictive relationship.

2. If you try to change the person that you are with in order to be a person that you'd like to be with, this is not a good relationship to be in. If you find yourself constantly thinking that the relationship would be perfect if the person could just change a little bit, it is a sign of a bad relationship.

3. KNowing the realtionship is bad for you, and you are not able to get out of it is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. you may not feel deserving of a positive relationship, perhaps you are so worried about the others reaction to a break up you lose sight of your own needs. no matter what, these are the signs of a bad relationship.

4. If you notice the realtioships of other happy people seem boring compared to yours, it may be a sign you are hooked on the chaos of an addictive relationship. There is a big probability that you would spurn these people to stay in your current relationship.

5. If you don't feel that you can be independent within your relationship, even though you might be independent in other areas, it might be a sign of an addictive relationship.

6. If it is hard to say 'no' and stick to it and you find yourself always giving in to your partners needs, this is another sign.

7. If your relationship makes you feel self-doubt, it is a sign that your relationship is dysfunctional.

If you find that you are in an addictive relationship, the best thing to do is to get out of the relationship. However, seek help from family and friends, and even professionals, so that you can avoid going back to the person, and so that you can learn how to appreciate yourself long enough to find a successful and good relationship.


Bill Urell

Bill Urell is an addictions therapist at a leading residential treatment center. He teaches healthy life styles and life skills as a component of holistic addictions treatment. His websites cover areas of professional and personal interests.

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