I love the analogy of two people experience the exact same situation at the exact same time and they recall two very different things about what happened. Even colors will appear different to one person from another. You may see it as plum and I see it as maroon.
Having a clear vision of who you are and how your differences affect the world around you is as important as knowing what your strengths and skills are. Allow yourself the freedom to be different. We all have something to offer this world and the people in it. If we were all the same, that would be a really boring world. You were created differently for different reasons. You have things to do in this world that other people need. And, they have things that you may need. We can’t all be doctors and not have any pilates. Having all police officers and not having any chefs would not work either. It would not be good if everyone was an architect or an accountant and no one was a musician, a painter, or an actor. What makes you, you? What would light you up? What makes your heart leap? Would you love to be a freestyle rapper? Does helping people get fit, make you happy? Being a personal trainer or a surgeon is very rewarding. Is cleaning your thing? Cleaning for a large hotel has amazing benefits. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just get to know yourself. Are you an active person? Do you tend to have more energy in the morning or the evenings? If you are a night person, you know that an opening shift at the locale cafe would not be a good fit.
Spend five or ten minutes in a quiet place and ask yourself, what do I like. Don’t filter it out. Whatever comes to mind write it down. Just brainstorm it out. Then, make a list of your dislikes. Picture yourself doing the things that you like and saying no to the things that you don’t like. That is the person that you are destined to be. Surround yourself with people that have accomplished the things that you like or would like to try.
Beth C Goldstein
Freelance Writer for The Blue Ribbon Project