In this article, I want to take the time to talk about one of my very favorite topics: the fact that "Success isn't fair"...and what to do about it...First off, I need to be clear that you understand that LIFE itself isn't fair. In case you were born on the moon, almost NOTHING on EARTH is fair. "Fairness" in effect is an idea, an intangible concept that man has created. I think we probably created the whole idea of what is "fair" to torture ourselves psychologically, in fact. Why would I say that? That's a good question and we'll get to that, but for now let's put it up on the shelf.
Here are a few ways that life isn't "fair", as the whole theory relates to money and success:
1) Some people are smarter and more creative, and some are decidedly less so. While the world will reward ANYONE with enough belief in themselves and enough "gumption" to make it happen- the truth is clear that in the world of success, being born with an innate creativity is a huge advantage to an entrepreneur. How unfair.
2) A ridiculously small percentage of the population that is born and lives out their lives on this planet live the lives they CHOOSE to live without worry over finances, spending their time doing the things they ENJOY with the people they LOVE. Most are BORN that way. How unfair.
3) Many men and women go their ENTIRE lives without ever reaching that pivotal place of choice, power, and PURPOSE we call "financial freedom". How unfair.
4) Some individuals have hundreds and hundreds of millions of dollars, so much so that the MERE interest on their accumulated fortunes can provide a lifestyle of luxury while the PRINCIPAL remains intact and untouched. How unfair.
5) Some men and women know the secrets of harnessing principles of wealth that are taught to them by parents or mentors, secrets whose use consistently allow them the FREEDOM of creating an ideal life for themselves and their families. How unfair.
The point I'm trying to make is that...LIFE ISN'T FAIR! And in case you haven't noticed it yet...the world of money isn't fair, either. Sometimes an entrepreneur will have a GREAT idea and then external circumstances will stifle a deal. Sometimes a specific real estate investing technique will work for you, and sometimes it won't. Sometimes you'll feel powerful and confident in your abilities and future prospects, and sometimes you won't.
Now, to be honest here I know I may be alienating a few people here. It's true that most people don't like the idea that life (and success) isn't fair. These people often get extremely upset when things don't go their way. They frequently place too much negative meaning on things that happen to them. Too often, they respond reactively to responses they get from the world and generally act like life should be different. Of course, this is CRAZY.
The more that I realized this fact... that life just isn't fair... the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth: IT'S GREAT NEWS! If life were "fair", then you wouldn't be able to do anything to change your personal success. You'd get what everyone else was getting.
So what does this have to do with investing in real estate? Well, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in ANY area you want (including success with money and investing). Truly, the best part of this realization is that you can not only get better and better results in a society where many feel the house is playing with a stacked deck, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR. You can improve so much your understanding of investing and your skill with making good investment decisions that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to money and investing.
What is this advantage? I know, I know...some of our advanced investor readers, I know you are nodding your head here as you're reading this. You understand already. But give me a moment to break it down 1-2-3 style for those who haven't figured it out yet! It all goes back to where we were earlier...let's take that idea from before down off the shelf, that idea that: We created the whole idea of what is "fair"...to torture ourselves psychologically.
Granted, as you sit there pondering what it is I'm saying...the idea that "life isn't fair," a popular worldview, is based on self-sabotage might sound a TAD harsh. In fact, if you know you've caught yourself saying these exact words at some time in the past, you might not LIKE ME RIGHT NOW. But, think of it this way- what exactly do people give as the reasons for not investing in Real Estate? Same old answers, right? Not enough MONEY Not enough CREDIT Not enough TIME. I know...how unfair.
The truth is, if you believe as I do then you'll realize that each of these "reasons" is in all actuality an EXCUSE. Now, if the idea that "life isn't fair" is such great news, then why aren't more people thinking of it this way? Why aren't more people turning this belief upside down and inside out and shaking the loose change out of its pockets?
I personally think that many people have a FEAR of SUCCESS, and if you were BORN with MONEY you might think I'm full of it. If you weren't and you're just beginning to make your crack at it and strive for your rightful place in the world of success, think with me for a moment. Isn't it EASIER just to throw up your hands and say "life isn't fair". Isn't it less painful to say "I'll never be rich". Isn't it more COMFORTING to convince yourself that dreams are for "those" people, those other people with more X, better Y, and the best Z? Sure it is! I know. I've been there.
It's called taking the path of least resistance and this unfortunate mindset is the culprit that steals countless dreams and spoils many, many splendid plans and ideas. And for someone who has dreams, big dreams, like you, dear reader, this mindset is a HUGE obstacle to your successful lifestyle as a real estate investor. If you're worried that you might have this "Life isn't fair" mindset, take a few minutes then and quietly reflect...isn't it time to STOP torturing yourself by saying "Life isn't fair", realize the truth and harness the power of flipping it around!
Success isn't fair... and that's great news.